没有妈妈的日子：第322天（第二篇）

Phone calls, at different distance.

Phone calls,
When was the last time you picked up the phone to have a long quality conversation with someone, in the age where instant messaging conquers our lives?

Think on.


I am hardly. I loathed phone calls since the other person over the phone (always) implies certain personal ideologies and influence into my life. I considered myself liberal, that highly treasure personal liberty and freedom in life. My philosophy is, "man is born with the freedom given". Every individual has the right to seek for all the happiness that leads to self-fulfilling purposes.
BUT... once people try to 'stripped' the freedom away, in this scenario, implying persuasion on how I should behave and do in life, sorry, I need to 'cut' the line.

My hatred towards phone calls came to an end. I think I had found a listener and speaker (listener and speaker in my view, does not equate in one sentence. The former is passive, the latter is active), who is extremely humourous, coming out with daily life jokes all the time. A person who (I perceived) is another liberalist as me.
An unrelated topic before I continue. "Never trust a stranger on the cyber world". Every schoolchildren have heard this warning again and again. I am not excluded. Being vigilante on the cyber world, you will never know people on the cyber world might come up with an intention of causing harm on your life.
I defied this rule. I knew a person over the cyber world, and after strings of conversations I gave my number to this person. We shared topics in common and (in all my justifications) built an amount of trust with one another. I knew what the person is doing for life, in return the person knows too. Took about three to four months before we exchanged numbers.
No. I was not harmed nor cheated.


Since then, we became close cyber friends.



Back to the phone call topic.
Two Internet users who became cyber friends. And spoke to each other few times over the phone, talking and sharing life encounters and bantering about the way of life.
Unbelievably, I have never felt so open in any conversations throughout my life, even with close girl friends. Yes, I do laugh a lot because the lame way the person teases me.
(Finally) Found another sarcastic-by-character human being on Earth that I can truly be the sarcastic me, without provoking and getting hated for what I am.

We did not meet each other despite all!

Finding someone who are able to click on with you and you feel free expressing your thoughts and real-self is hard.
Once found, treasure and maintain this relationship.



Writer's note: I deeply wish to set up a meeting with this close cyber friend. Just... for the sake feeling his solid presence.

Writer's note 2: Oh... I mentioned about provoking and getting hated earlier. An encounter, which, highly impacted my perception and decision on looking for the other half in my life.

Writer's note 3: Will soon write about being provoking and hatred. Warning: be writing in a feminist style.

没有妈妈的日子：第61天

The Perfect Fit...

*I guess I need to blog more about fashion, and beauty plus hair products more often as I am (so called) aspiring to be 'Carrie Bradshaw'. Ha, ha!*

I go shopping by myself, mostly. This is what I do these days. At times I will buy what I saw and like... Well, that depends on my mood, too. If I am enthusiastic on shopping, I will definitely buy something.


Movies, dramas always generalized female as shopaholics. Once a girl goes shopping, she will return with large numbers of shopping bags.
OK. That would need some clarification. NOT ALL girls return home with enormous shopping bags. That was media portrayal of glamorous life. And it 'poisoned' certain people badly.
Well, not everyone can afford the glamorous life. So a little advice, shop at your own limits. Never demand for the so-called 'glamorous life' you saw on mass media.


For me, it has been a heartache to shop for shoes. Yes. I hope I am not the only one that is facing this dilemma. It is a problem for me to find... the perfect fit.
I am particular in choosing the right pair of shoe. I believed that a good pair of shoe will 'bring' us to whenever we go and can last for a long time. And it can 'accommodate' any occasions. That were the criteria I looked at when I wanted to buy a pair of well-fitted shoes.

I have four pairs of shoes. That's it. I love shoes but I DON'T buy all the shoes I love.

I went for shoe hunting yesterday. And (thankfully) I found what I think it would the 'perfect fit'.

No. It's not Louboutin, Ferragamo or Blahnik. It is just a random pair of shoes I found, and fits me perfectly well (guess so). 

A shoe is a girl's 'best friend'. A 'best friend' that brings her to a greater heights.
This 'best friend' could be found in everywhere. However, not all the 'best friends' are the right one for a girl.


Finding a pair of shoe is exactly as finding a true love. Yes.

There are many potentials out there. Despite that, do one really find The Special One that makes one's heart deeply attracted and longing for him all the time? The Special One is the one you would have no qualms on being together.

A simple yet deep shoe-searching life philosophy.




Writer's note: Once you found the perfect one, be it shoe or person, never let go.

没有妈妈的日子：第42天

Absence Apologies...

Sincerely apologise for abandoning this blog for more than one month.

Life was very much different from before. I had never been busier in the 22 years of my life ever. 'House-daughter', business partner, student and now I can call myself a freelancer as I started to sell my articles to a website, Yuberactive, thanks to my ex-classmate and friend, Ju Yi for linking the connection.

I had adapted to this new phrase of my life. It was stressful initially to adapt the change.
I had written on 'Embracing Change' before. Yes, we need to adapt to change as this is a phenomena that will never change. Again, "what doesn't change around us is... change."

I had deeply understand change is important and inevitable in life. Thus, I applied this ideology in dealing with the unexpected turning point of my life.



I am in my final (studying) semester of university life. I try to enjoy the last moments of student's life with my best girl friends as much as we could. There are chances we might not see each other after our short semester as often as we are now. Whatever crazy and bitchy plans we have in minds, we try our best to fulfill the plans.
I will remember and treasure these moments I had with my girl friends. I am thankful to have them in my uni life. Hopefully, in the future, we can still gather around and talk non-stop like we do. I hope to see my girl friends getting married to their current boyfriends in the near future.

OK. Time to rant about my love life... I am still searching for 'the one' I love and willing to spend my life with. I doubt that this particular one has actually 'arrived' for a long time. Just that I had forgotten about it. Well, that was merely my (inaccurate) sixth sense...
I mentioned that I was in a confusion in my last blog post. The confusion has been cleared. I am more than sure my feelings now. The big question now is, "does my feelings reciprocated...?"



So far... I am doing well with life.
And I have no clue when will be my next blog post... But, I will definitely never left my blog unattained for a long time.


Writer's note: There was a blog post drafted few weeks ago. Due to unexpected events and hectic lifestyle, I have yet to complete it.

没有妈妈的日子：第七天（第二篇）

The language of technology...

Bits and bytes, that is what we use to communicate today.
From messages and instant messages on our mobile phones to social networking sites (SNS) we actually use bits and bytes, the common language that is understood by all our devices.

Bits and bytes changed the way how human interact with each other? Indeed true.
This is year 2012. Do we still see someone writes a letter? Do we still use the phone at home to call our friends or loved ones?
My answer to the first question, no I didn't see anyone nor know anyone who still writes a letter. My answer to the second question, somehow yes, there are still family members that call me through their house phones.

I live in the bits and bytes era. Technology changed and effected much on the way human interacts.

Here are some of my experiences.
Let me start from my personal experiences; I love using this instant messaging application or app for mobile, 'Whatsapp'. You just need to connect to an Internet connection, using wifi or data on mobile and you can interact with your contacts that use the app.
'Whatsapp' is a channel of communicating those gossips with my friends. As I written before on 'gossiping on instant messaging', people use this method or channel to bond with one another or keep in touch with friends. To be honest, there are PLENTY of gossiping (backstabbing mostly) and heart-to-heart conversations with my friends (Not Twitter nor Facebook friends, keep in mind).
When I need to find someone to talk or chat, I'll go to my few closest 'Whatsapp' friends.

Other than using instant messagers, one can try Facebook message or Twitter's Direct Message (DM) if you want to talk about something that you might not want to make public. Please bear in mind, as a SNS user, be abide by certain rules such as don't keep updating your (silly) statuses on FB or upload images of you behaving like a nutcase, sorry I need to rephrase my word... behaving immaturely.
Bear in mind also, certain conversations should not be made public. I'd learned my lessons few days ago on Twitter. Do not ever talk about utmost intimate topic on a public timeline, with an opposite gender.


Tweets posted on my Twitter account, take it with a sarcastic approach.
Yes. I do love to bant and rant. I Tweet stuffs that I find to be sarcastically funny. Honestly, if one can't take sarcasm, my advice would be stop reading my Tweets. Leave it if you are a 'faint hearted' and doesn't 'digest' sarcasm...
Condemn me if you want...


Writer's note: Earlier today, I Tweeted "To some point, I feel like Ana Steele, minus those stuffs. Wtf! Cc @dayapattinson", mentioning this friend of mine. Yes. I met and talked to her few days ago and told her my 'confused feelings'. I DM-ed her later on why I feel like Ana Steele. For those who read '50 Shades' trilogy, you knew well who is Ana Steele and those 'stuffs' I was referring. As I mentioned above, DM and Facebook message are meant for discussing personal issues or topics. So I won't disclose what the conversation was about.

Writer's note 2: There was this thought of mine that I think can be useful, somehow "I believe time will confirm or deny all confusions". I'm currently in a confused state. I'm uncertain of my feelings and actions. There are too many questions that I seek for the answers. I think only time can tell... Confirm or deny all my questions.